MOTHER ON FIRE: A True Motherf%#$@ Story About Parenting!
By SANDRA TSING LOH

Crown, 2008
ISBN: 9780609608135
320 pages; Hardcover
GENRE(S): Nonfiction, Memoir

Reviewed by Yennie Cheung

Sandra Tsing Loh isn't an easy writer to read, let alone love. In her latest book, Mother on Fire, the author and public radio personality writes IN ALL CAPS instead of italics, jumps from tangent to tangent like a speed freak with ADHD, and rambles neurotically about seemingly random details without ever seeming to return to the initial point. She writes, essentially, like an over-caffeinated blogger with a flair for the theatrical. The results, as one can imagine, are a bit frightening, but those patient enough to endure the chaos will find that there is a method to the madness.

Mother on Fire documents Loh's life as the parent of two young daughters and her attempts to find a proper elementary school for them in the San Fernando Valley area of Los Angeles. Sadly for Loh, the abject failure that is the Los Angeles Unified School District runs all of the public schools in the Valley, and the LAUSD is not a good place to send children with any semblance of potential for future success (mind you, I say that as a product of the LAUSD myself).

Loh writes in an informal but self-deprecating tone, describing in detail exactly how frazzled and high-strung she is. The approach works to an extent, allowing the book to seem like an overlong conversation with a friend. The problem, though, is that these conversations meander too much. Loh spends a great deal of time discussing matters unrelated to parenthood or wandering off on tangents that happened in unspecified portions of her past.

Even while discussing parenthood, Loh seems to forget that her focus is on finding her daughter a suitable kindergarten, not drawing diagrams about breast feeding. After considering using her NPR connections to secure a place at a good school, she begins recalling an afternoon spent as a guest speaker at the college where she teaches. There, she launches into a tirade about her own successes and failures as a performance artist, essentially frightening her audience out of their naïve goals for success. Somewhere in that half-mad mess, there is a point related, however tenuously, to parenting, but whatever it was feels irrelevant as the chapter chugs on.

But even when Loh does stay on topic, her narrative feels far too fake for a memoir, and her frenzied pitch makes her writing grating and gimmicky. Her oddball cheerfulness seems a little manic, while facts and conversations with others are blatantly embellished in order to facilitate storytelling and convey introspection (Loh acknowledges as much in the Author's Note). Though this sort of dialogue rewriting was quirky and thoughtful in A Heartbreaking Work of Staggering Genius, the conversations in Mother on Fire are too straightforward and too immediate to read like artistic license, so the passages become jarring and feel a little amateur.

About halfway through the book, Loh addresses the one event for which she became notorious: the uncensored use of the f-word in a prerecorded segment of her radio show, The Loh Life. The incident, which occurred three weeks after Janet Jackson's infamous wardrobe malfunction, led to Loh's firing and incited a great deal of media fury, seemingly all in her favor. Here, Loh's roles as a mother and breadwinner come together and, almost magically, calm her prose. Her narrative slows and steadies, first reflecting her dejection and defeat, but later reflecting her coincidental windfall. Even her embellished dialogue seems believable once she settles down.

Inadvertently, Loh reveals what is perhaps the crucial flaw to her book. Her writing style mirrors the emotions she is recalling at any particular moment, allowing her readers to feel exactly how frantic or defeated she felt. But in coercing her readers into a sense of immediacy and empathy, she paradoxically makes observations about the situations that only time and distance can provide. As a result, the written Loh seems a little too self-aware while the authorial Loh seems self-indulgent.

Considering the thickly shmeared layers of creative license, Mother on Fire seems to aspire for the same artistic consideration that many popular memoirs are given. For the sake of artistry and introspection, facts in memoirs can be skewed and life can be fictionalized, so long as the authors acknowledge such blatant changes. The problem, however, is that Loh is no Dave Eggers; her Average Jane approach is simply too everyday. She is, instead, in closer company with Danny Wallace, whose stories are more straightforward than Eggers's but equally effective. Loh shoots for but misses a middle ground, attempting to be as accessible and humorous as Wallace but as inventive as Eggers. She isn't by any means a bad writer, but if she had only turned down that half-crazed tone and adopted a more truthful everywoman approach, she would have a much more effective story.

(August, 2008)

 

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